Unlock Your True Potential by Rewriting Your Life's Script

This episode revolves around the importance of real transformation, addressing the challenges we face due to self-identity formed by our past experiences. Lisa Jeffs emphasizes taking action as a crucial step towards change and encourages listeners to face their narratives head-on. 

• The impact of personal loss on transformation 
• Growing up in environments that shape self-worth 
• The significance of rewriting personal stories 
• Meditation as a tool for connecting to true self 
• The necessity of taking action for real change 
• Addressing discomfort in the pursuit of growth 
• Emphasizing vision-setting for 2025 
• The role of accountability in transformative practices 
• Invitation to join the Magnetic Leader Accelerator program

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Speaker 1 0:00

What you need to know about real transformation . This episode is going to go in the core of why we hold ourselves back and what to do about it .

Speaker 2 0:17

To make your 2025 the best year yet . Now . Go , get it , living up to your full potential . Your energy is magnetic . Big dreams believe in it . Wisdom we seeking it , everything that you looking for , brought to you by Lisa Jeffs , the magnetic leader , it's time to soar .

Speaker 3 0:34

Tap into your power of an entrepreneur . Level up . Step it up because I believe , find your purpose . Time to be a magnetic leader .

Speaker 1 0:50

Welcome to the show leaders . This episode is going to go into a concept that is very near and dear to my heart . I don't want to bring anyone down , that's not the intention of this episode , but it's a real talk episode because sometimes we brush over real human transformation with feel-good tactics and transformation good tactics and give transformation . I have no desire to help people do the fluffy feel good stuff , even though core real transformation will feel good . In fact it'll feel freaking amazing . But it can be a challenge , which is why a lot of people don't want to talk about it . They don't want to go there . They want to do , you know , the fluffy feel-good stuff . So let's get into it .

Speaker 1 1:50

This past month , one of my dear friends passed away . This is someone that I grew up with . We met in junior high school . If you've been following me for a while , you will know that I've lost a few good friends in the last little while and more people than I can count . I've gone to their celebration of life and their funerals and it's been a big wake-up call to me and with every person that passes it's just another awareness shift that goes deeper into this concept how I grew up and how a lot of my friends who passed grew up .

Speaker 1 2:41

We did not grow up in a typical great home Not that I think a lot of people did , to be honest but we didn't grow up in a household that you know . We were prepping for college and you know all of us were excited about things like prom and homecoming and college are we going to and all that stuff . We grew up in households . Every one of us have a different story . My story , if you know . I'll just go into the short form .

Speaker 1 3:14

I started my life in a foster home . I don't think my teen father even knew I existed until I was born . My mother felt like she had to keep it a secret for due reasons , and I had a rougher start to my beginning , went into a wonderful home with two of my parents , who they're my adopted parents , but I don't call them my adopted parents . They're my parents and they did the best that they could . But as many parents in the 80s , there was not a lot of emotional connection and a lot of my needs went unmet and grew up with a group of kids who had similar stories and we all kind of struggled with that low self-worth right .

Speaker 1 4:15

Some of the friends that I had also came from homes that either didn't have one parent there or there was just a huge lack of connection and parenting and what it did was it caused us to view ourselves as in a very low light . So I remember times growing up where I didn't even like going to college , wasn't even a thought of mine , and I'm not even sure why . To be honest , the parenting lacked that real guidance when I needed it . And then my father passed away at 19 and it kind of spiraled out . And that's when I got into the adult entertainment world , because that's what I thought , you know , I could do and a lot of my friends at that time went into different avenues of crime and really kind of spiraled out . And it's interesting to see people from that time that I grew up with .

Speaker 1 5:23

A lot of people spiraled out and ended up in drugs and on a few of those instances drugs took their life . And it's shown me a very clear example that our self-identity , how we view ourselves in this world , how we value ourselves , what we believe our worth to be , what we believe we are capable of , and all the stories that we take with us from our youth impact what we do today , what we believe we are capable of , and it's not just the connection to or stories that are similar to mine and my friends . You may not have a story that's even remotely like that , but I can guarantee that if you're going through any kind of challenge or frustration and you've been going through it for a while it's likely tied to a story and I bet you we can go back and we can see the connection from past , whether that is your past growing up from zero to seven , something that happened in adolescent or even early adulthood . When I'm working with my clients and we're doing this work to shift the stories and shift the limitations and really shift the patterns because that's all they are , they're just simply patterns we can tie it back to these self-identity stories that are from the past . And saying goodbye to this friend who passed suddenly it was a shock for a lot of us .

Speaker 1 7:22

It was this real , clear indication that If we people , humanity , want to change our life and what we are experiencing whether that is the finances we're experiencing , whether that is the career we are in , the business we have , the love and romance that we are welcoming in and accepting into our lives or tolerating I'm recording this on Valentine's Day . We need to look at how do I view myself in the world and we need to look past that , because we are so much more than the stories we tell ourselves . We are so me , lisa Jeffs if I were to look at Lisa Jeffs as simply the programs that I operate under . So this is the stories I tell myself , of who I am , even the stories that I just shared , of growing up . Right , if I put so much meaning into that and I give it this , what's the word I'm looking for , if I identify with it ? So let's say that you know the story that I just shared when my life started in a foster home and I don't have any negative views on that . In fact , my parents instilled very beautiful stories of walking into the foster home and seeing me on a blanket in the living room , the sun shining down , and they were just in love immediately . But even that's right , I'm identifying with a good feeling thought .

Speaker 1 9:17

But if we identify with these stories , it becomes our reality , it becomes who we are and we get to choose . We get to choose the stories that we want to identify with or not . We are so much more than our stories , but especially , we are so much more than the negative stories . Right ? If we've had relationships , let's say that have been . I know a lot of people online are now talking about relationships with narcissists . Right ? A lot of people in my community are empaths and many empaths have stories of narcissists . Right , it's part of the learning lesson to stand in our power , own our power , and a lot of us have these memories or potentially we're in it right now . But again , I digress To transform and to transform your life and to truly let go of the past and step into something new , we need to get a hold on the stories that we are identifying with as us , because we are so much more like Lisa Jeffs is so much more than these stories that I have from the past . I'm even so much more than the visions and the dreams I have for the future . In fact , one of the exercises I gave a member of the Magnetic Leader Accelerator this week was to go into meditation and ask to be shown their core energetic signature and what this will do . You can do it too . I'm inviting you to do this exercise as well is when you are in meditation and PS .

Speaker 1 11:23

I know a lot of people in my community aren't regular meditators , and a lot of them struggle with even the thought of meditating of them struggle with even the thought of meditating . When I say meditating , you do not need to go and sit on a rock and clear your thoughts for an hour . Okay , that is not what I'm talking about . All I am saying is closing your eyes . If you're new to this , close your eyes . You don't need to clear your mind .

Speaker 1 11:50

Thoughts will come in meditation . The purpose is not to identify with them . Let them flow by , as they are a cloud flowing by , and I want you to set the intention , and you can do that by stating out loud I set the intention , I will be shown my core energetic signature , and what this does is allows you to tune in to the full energy of who you are . When I do this , I feel it first . You may feel it , you may see it , you may know it , you may hear it . It can come in any shape or fashion . Do not get attached to how it may come in . In fact , don't even have any expectations . Let that all go . When I do this , I feel my core energetic signature , so big , so powerful , so grounded and so wise , beyond any of the stories I'm telling myself in the day-to-day that it's a huge reality check that we are more than our current human self-identity . And even if you consciously know that and you're like Lisa , I know I'm so much more . I want you to practice this exercise anyways , because it's a fabulous thing to do daily , to get yourself out of your head into your body , into the truth of who you are , to support your movement forward so you aren't stuck in the loop of limitation .

Speaker 1 13:44

Most people that I talk to , who are having challenges , with confidence , with clarity , with you , know they desire something , but they just can't seem to change their reality . It's because they are looping the same thoughts , stories and energy over and over and over again , like Groundhog Day . One of the other practices we do within the Magnetic Leader Accelerator is we have a practice of tuning into our magnetic vision statement and not engaging with the old programming . Literally , when those old thought patterns and those old stories come out , come back , just visualizing , wiping them as if you are wiping a stain off the counter , as if you are wiping a stain off the counter , not engaging and allowing them to build momentum . That is the biggest problem is people are waking up in the same energy , right , they're allowing their body to do the same actions . Everything is the same , even if they , you know they're staring at their vision board for two minutes but they're not changing anything else . They're going to bed in the same energy and it's just a repeat . This is what is keeping the past alive . I don't care what your past is , I don't care if your past is an absolute nightmare .

Speaker 1 15:23

In your opinion , part of the work to heal and move forward is to change the stories . Now , I'm simplifying it here because everyone has their own path , and some of the healing can involve really working on our neural pathways . Sometimes it involves our nervous system , sometimes it involves , you know , some deep somatic work , some spiritual work . Right , it can be a whole lot of different things that we can do to heal these patterns , but I don't want you to get also lost in the story that you have to go and do so much healing to be able to move forward , because that's just not true .

Speaker 1 16:11

I have made radical changes in my life simply by making a decision that I was done . I was absolutely done with a certain reality , and the key here is I started taking new actions . This is critical . A lot of times in the personal development world . We love doing the deeper work which , by the way , I love too , and it's very important but we can get lost in the journaling and the meditating and joining 10,000 programs and doing all these things but not taking the actions needed . And let me tell you , the members of the Magnetic Leader Accelerator that are in there right now are having the most massive shifts , and the reason why is because we do what's called the power hour , and this is an intentional hour where they are held accountable to taking the needle mover actions . And this alone has been radical .

Speaker 1 17:20

And I'm calling myself out because some of the work that I used to do with clients yes , actions have always been a part of it , but I wasn't as firm with the actions . I was a little more lax and focused more on doing some of the healing work , which , again , is very important , but through this program . The reason I created this program was , I said to myself , I'm seeing a lot of people getting lost in just doing a lot of work , like I would see some people I know in the personal development world and I would see them commenting on other people's Instagram . You know when people put out these things and they're like join this masterclass , do this , do this , and I would see people just keep joining the same things over and over and over again , and I thought to myself this is not effective , this is not productive . Not that everything needs to be productive , but it was giving me the energy of getting lost in the loop , right , getting lost in the story of dopamine hits from watching a new class or listening to a new podcast , et cetera , et cetera , and I'm guilty of that too , but it doesn't actually give us the results that we want . Actually give us the results that we want .

Speaker 1 18:44

Action , even though uncomfortable , a lot of the time , is really going to move the needle , and if you feel like you're paralyzed from taking action , that's when we have to go in and do some deeper work around healing . But a lot of times it's the conditioning that's stopping us from taking the action . And having the accountability to move in a different direction and start building momentum in that direction is going to have a greater effect on us , our confidence , our self-identity , who we see ourselves as in this world , than anything else . And when I've been in moments where I've gotten so sick and tired of something and I've just made the decision to change , I have had radical , life-altering changes in the right direction within days , weeks , months . It's completely different and I did that . Even with challenges . My nervous system was still fight or flight , my mindset wasn't perfect , but I still made these changes .

Speaker 1 20:08

Now I'm not saying that not to do this deeper work , but don't let it be a hindrance and don't get lost in it . I had a call with someone I remember actually it wasn't a call , it was a conversation on social media somewhere and they were stating that they were scared that they couldn't make a change until their nervous system was regulated . And I know that where they got this information ? Because it's being taught online . And yes , of course we want to regulate our nervous system . Of course we want to do that work .

Speaker 1 20:43

That's some of the most healing work you can do getting out of survival , getting out of fight or flight but you do not need to wait to move forward . You do not need to wait to start seeing different results in your life and shifting your self-identity until all the pieces are in place . You do not . I am proof of that . I've done this multiple times and I'm not some kind of special chicken . I just understand and even understood it before I even knew what the heck I was doing , what you truly need to transform your life , your work , your financial situation , your body , your relationships , etc .

Speaker 1 21:36

So I'm going to wrap it up here and my final thought for this , my final wrap up , is for you to get clear what are you moving towards in 2025 ? Are you okay repeating the same stories , the same results , or do you want something different ? And if you want something different , what are you going to do ? That is different , something different what are you going to do ? That is different ? If you need some help in this area , we are still doing beta rounds of the Magnetic Leader Accelerator included in the beta round . The beta round is a 12-week program currently and on top of that , you get three one-on-one sessions added . That is going away soon , however , not all three sessions , but I will be limiting the one-on-one sessions and eventually they'll go away completely . If you would like to apply for the beta round , the link will be in the show notes . It's really important that we have a short conversation to make sure it's a fit for you and also make sure that it's a good fit for the group .

Speaker 1 22:53

I'm being very particular with this group . It's a very small group and it is important that everyone's energy and purpose and vision mesh well together . I love you , I appreciate you . Life is short . 2025 is already starting out to be quite the interesting year , but you have the power to steer your course in any way , shape or fashion you would like . The power comes from with you and moves outward right . True empowerment from inside to out , not outside , from in in . I love you , appreciate you and , as always , let's stay connected .

Speaker 2 24:01

Dreams believe in it . Wisdom we seeking it . Everything that you're looking for , brought to you by Lisa Jeffs , the Magnetic Leader .

Speaker 3 24:09

It's time to soar Tap into your power of an entrepreneur .