Stop Doing It Alone: The High Achiever's Guide to Receiving Help

Accountability is critical for high achievers who want to reach their potential and accomplish more than the status quo, particularly when they've been stuck trying to do everything on their own.

• Financial investment creates powerful accountability through having skin in the game
• True change requires uncomfortable investments rather than small, budget-friendly commitments
• Elite coaches hold you accountable through their integrity and respect, not by constantly checking in
• High performers often struggle with asking for help and learning to receive
• The "self-made success" is a myth since nothing substantial is ever accomplished alone
• Releasing scarcity mindset is essential to seeing investment in yourself as growth, not cost
• Transformations can begin immediately once you commit to proper support

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Chapters

• 0:00 Accountability for High Achievers
• 5:13 Investment as Accountability
• 10:25 The Power of Respect and Integrity
• 15:42 Break Free from Doing It Alone
• 19:12 Embrace Support and Episode Closing

Transcript

Speaker 1: 1:17

Leaders, let's talk about accountability. Accountability and having a certain level of discipline and commitment to your dreams and your goals. What is going to help this? What is going to support it? It's critical if you want to live up to your potential, if you want to do things that most people aren't.

Speaker 2: 1:42

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Speaker 1: 2:22

Welcome to the show leaders. So I want to get into different ways that you can bring in more accountability into your life, what I use that is helpful, and how to break out of the it's me against the world or it's all on me to do the thing. High achievers are brutal with this, and I'm included. Right, we have the mentality that we can do a lot of things on our own, or that we know how to do it. Of course we know how to do it. That doesn't mean we're going to be great at doing it for ourselves, especially when we are talking about inner transformation. I was just having a call with a person who's absolutely considered to be a high achiever a high performer and they were telling me how they've been trying to do it on their own for a long time. They've been listening to podcasts, they've been watching the YouTube videos, reading the books, and it's just not happening. And this is when they reached out for help. The problem is a lot of high achievers, a lot of performers, will spend way too much time trying to do it on their own and using up their most valuable resource, which is time. So what do I find that works for accountability? First, it is paying money. Now, I know a lot of people don't like to hear that, but it works, and it works a lot better for me and for my clients and for what I've seen than simply getting an accountability buddy. Sure, that can be helpful, and if you don't have anything absolutely helpful Accountability buddy that you don't know very well is often more helpful than family members, because if family members were truly that helpful with accountability, you likely wouldn't be asking for accountability. Regardless. It doesn't mean there's anything wrong with your family, it's just the dynamic that it is. And if you have a family member or you find your family is great at keeping you accountable, that's amazing. Lean into that, because that's not the typical norm that I've seen. But paying money, having skin in the game, is a different level of commitment. So I am always investing in myself and the key is it has to be something that is skin in the game for you, and this can be different for everybody, depending on your level of income, depending on how much money you have coming in or where you are financially. It is key for you. So that could look like you know that could look be $20 for someone, that could be $200 for someone, $2,000 for another person, it could be $20,000 for another person, it could be $200,000 for another person or $2 million. There's no right or wrong here. It's dependent on what keeps you accountable, I found in my programs. This is why I don't offer low cost programs. Sometimes I'll do a program that is lower investment.

Speaker 1: 6:07

But my belief system is when we do coaching, when we do transformation work, it's effective, it actually leads to change. It's not just feel good stuff that makes us feel good in the moment but doesn't actually get to the root of anything, doesn't actually promote change. I am not a fan of this. I have been in the personal development world a long time and I see people bouncing around from program to program, bouncing around from program to program, convention to convention, podcast to podcast, getting hits of dopamine and feel-good chemicals, but never changing anything. Their income stays the same, their impact stays the same, their internal challenges just keep revolving around and around because they haven't truly committed. It takes a real inner commitment to put money on the line. That is a big investment for you. You feel it.

Speaker 1: 7:19

When I first, when I made my first investment, first big, big investment which was almost for me at least, which was almost $20,000 Canadian. I paid an American, but it converted to Canadian about about 20,000. I knew it was the right decision for me. It felt good, but it still was scary. There was still an element of ooh, even though that investment was what put me over into six figures. That's what bumped me up into the six figure earning level. I needed to do that investment. I had previously been doing investments in the thousands a couple of thousands and that department but I needed to have a big number. That stretched me and that, for me, was the point where I realized, oh, if I want to make changes and really be accountable, it's not going to be in. This is within my budget.

Speaker 1: 8:31

So a lot of people that come to me will say things like you know, oh, it's not in my budget, or I really want to do this thing but it's not in my budget. Well, okay, of course it's not in your budget because it's outside of your norm. If it was something inside of your norm, sure it would be in your budget. Now I'm not telling you to go out and apply for a bunch of credit cards and ring up a bunch of debt in a space where you are, you know, hoping and praying and not grounded in the truth of what's happening. But when you get committed to making a change in your life, to getting to the point where you are so sick and tired of how you are living, whatever you're experiencing that current identity, and you are committed to making the changes necessary to break free, to embody a new identity, to have new standards for yourself, to no longer tolerate what you have been tolerating, that is coming from a very different place, where you are coming from a place of certainty.

Speaker 1: 9:49

So when I made that first big investment in myself, it was from a place of certainty. I knew that money was coming back. I wasn't hoping it was going to come back. I wasn't crossing my fingers. I knew that the investment in myself was going to come back tenfold and it did, even though funny enough, if you know this story because I've told it many times I ended up shrinking in that program. I didn't even utilize the program to its full extent, but that didn't matter. It was the identity shift that happened when I made that investment in myself. It was an up up leveling. So back to accountability spending the money.

Speaker 1: 10:35

If you found that accountability, buddies or other aspects haven't been enough to keep you accountable. Think about making a uncomfortable investment in yourself, but not from a place of hope or wish or dream, from a place of certainty that you will get that investment back tenfold. Now here's another key for accountability which I've found investing in my own coaches over the years, which is really, really important. If you're thinking of investing in a coach. What I found is the coaches that I like do not hold me accountable, and what I mean is it's not that they don't they're not trying to hold me accountable it's that I don't feel accountable to them, and this is really interesting. It's the is that I don't feel accountable to them, and this is really interesting.

Speaker 1: 11:30

It's the coaches that I respect and, of course, I can like them, but that's important. But the coaches that I respect hold me accountable and again, it's not a fact of them doing something or not doing something specifically in accordance to accountability, it's the ones that I can see are walking their talk. They are doing what they say, they are holding the energy of integrity and they aren't just talking a good game, they are living it, and I've only had a couple of occasions where I liked the coach that I was investing in. I like them as a person, but the respect in the craft wasn't there and I won't get into why that is, but there's certain things that were, from my perspective, a lack of integrity. So this is really important to note, because we can like a lot of people, but do you respect that person? Are they someone who you feel is going to keep you accountable, that you're going to be accountable for?

Speaker 1: 12:54

And when we talk about accountability, even when you're hiring like when I hire my coaches to keep for accountability and I have one that just keeps me accountable to the tasks that I set for the week, but I need to I'm the one who holds myself accountable. They help, but we can't lean on someone and expect them to be doing the work. They're not gonna do the work. It doesn't matter how many times they check in and, to be honest, them checking in repeatedly isn't actually helpful. That's just codependency. It's not actually supporting. It's the energy that they hold. It's the belief in me that allows me to show up for myself and my dreams and what I said I was going to do, to be accountable. It's not them checking in a million times or telling me you know what I said I was going to do. It's not about having another, a parent. It's about having someone who walks their talk, someone who walks their talk who you respect, because they have integrity within themselves, and that energy is what allows the accountability to happen, but it has to come from inside.

Speaker 1: 14:33

So, going back to what I shared, first, one is spend the money, invest in yourself, bet on yourself. It is far more effective than just having someone to say, okay, I'm going to keep you accountable. Next is make sure that whoever you're hiring or whoever you're you're in relationship with for accountability, that they you are actually feel that they are going to you want to be accountable to them, that you want to show up and do the work, that there is an energy of accountability. So the next thing, before I wrap it up because I want this to be a quick one for you is, if you have a big dream, you really got to start to ask the question who can help me and get out of the mentality that it's all on you or you're going to do it on your own? Because, one, you're going to cap your growth. Two, you're going to make it on your own Because, one, you're going to cap your growth. Two, you're going to make it a lot harder for yourself. And three, nothing substantial in this world has been done alone.

Speaker 1: 15:41

This is why, you know, when we see people use the term self-made millionaire and again they can absolutely use that and it's something to be proud of and acknowledge but no one's on their own. Everyone has others that are supporting in some fashion or not. In whatever fashion or not, some can be more of a support, a support in certain areas, not in certain areas, but the solo person who is doing it on their own because one they think they can do it better than other people. This is a huge blind spot for so many high achievers and high performers, or two. Another limitation I see often in my work is people don't want to ask for help. They don't want to be a bother, they're uncomfortable asking people for help. They've always been the one to give help. So really it's a practice in learning to receive, and this is a big lesson for many, many purpose-driven high achievers learning to receive.

Speaker 1: 16:54

And lastly, you got to get out of the mentality of scarcity. So if I invest in myself or I invest in help, that's a cost. It's me losing. Right, I'm spending. No, you're not spending. You're not losing anything. You are gaining you are giving yourself one, the accountability. Two, the support. Three, depending on what support you're asking or investing in more space, more time, more bandwidth, you are adding in to whatever it is you're building.

Speaker 1: 17:36

So, to wrap it up, if you have a big goal, if you have a big dream, people always reach out to me and they have these big goals, they have these big dreams and a lot of those people say yes, a lot of those people move forward, a lot of those people start seeing shifts almost instantly, almost instantly. When I say instantly, I just had a call with a person we didn't even start yet, we didn't even have our session, and just from the support he got in our initial enrollment call, he was able to take action on things he had not taken action on for months that were weighing on him because he had someone in his corner. This is the power of saying yes to yourself. So get the accountability you need. Know that you are worth it, know that you are deserving and know that every time you pour into yourself, it's going to come back to you, so releasing any lack, limitation and scarcity, because it's an illusion. It's an absolute illusion and you and your dreams deserve more. They deserve better. Thank you, leader.

Speaker 1: 18:59

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Speaker 2: 19:42

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