Become a Magnetic Communicator in 30 Days

Transform how people perceive you with three powerful confidence practices that deliver results in 30 days or less. I share the crucial difference between fluid confidence and foundational self-esteem, revealing why confidence fluctuates while self-esteem requires deeper personal work. 

• Conviction trumps confidence - being fully committed to your ideas makes others see them as important
• When conviction is lacking, journal 100 reasons why your ideas matter and read them daily
• Record yourself speaking to identify and eliminate confidence-draining filler words
• Speaking with a louder, diaphragm-based voice instantly signals confidence to others
• These practices create a positive cycle - as others respond differently, internal confidence grows

Try these three practices for 30 days and message me on Instagram to share your results - what deals you've sealed and opportunities you've gained!

Transcript

Introduction to Confidence Transformation

Speaker 1 0:00

uh . Tap into your inner power . You got this . Now go get it living up to your full potential . Your energy is magnetic . Big dreams believe in it . Wisdom , we seeking it , everything that you're looking for , brought to you by lisa jeffs , the magnetic leader . It's time to soar . Tap into your power of an entrepreneur . Level up . Step it up because Find your purpose . Time to be a magnetic leader .

Speaker 2 0:32

Welcome to the show leaders . In this episode we are going to go through three ways that you can practice that are going to radically change how you show up , how people perceive you . In 30 days or less , people are going to be seeing you as the most confident version of you , and it's a lot easier than you think . So I've been coaching top leaders , entrepreneurs , professionals , artists for over 11 years and I would say about 80% of those people have come to me and said Lisa , I want to work on my confidence . I want to feel more confident . I feel like I should be more confident .

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I've achieved a lot , but I still feel like I shrink in places . I still feel like I can't , like I shrink in places . I still feel like I can't get my ideas out the way that I want . In certain circumstances I just hide out in the corner and I don't really interact the way I could . And a lot of times when people come to me for confidence , what's really going on is we also need to work on self-esteem , because confidence is very fluid .

Speaker 2 1:51

Confidence kind of blows like the wind . One day you can feel really , really confident , you can feel like on top of the world and another day you can wake up and you can feel the complete opposite , and that's okay , that's normal . Confidence can go up and down A lot of time . Confidence is related to your

Confidence vs Self-Esteem Explained

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confidence in your abilities . Or if you've had a week where you are doing things like when I'm lifting weights consistently heavy weights my confidence goes through the roof . Confidence is also tied to our body , what we are doing with our body . If we are sitting up tall , if we have our shoulders back , if we're walking with confidence , that has an effect on how we feel . So if we're having a week where we're not feeling confident , we're kind of slung over , we're in our heads , we're thinking a lot that is going to lead to us feeling not as confident . So confidence is very fluid .

Speaker 2 3:05

Self-esteem , however , when we work on our self-esteem and we get our self-esteem up , when we really focus in on believing in ourself , in healing what needs to be healed , that it is having an impact on our self-esteem . That it is having an impact on our self-esteem when we start to surround ourself . I always say , if you don't believe in yourself fully yet , surround yourself with people that are gonna speak words over you so you can lean on their belief until you fully embody it . So at the core is always this deeper work on self-esteem . However , I'm gonna give you three things you can practice , because I know a lot of my clients . I know a lot of my people in my community . They love to do things . They love the things that they can practice . So , if you want to appear more confident in 30 days or less , even if you don't feel , it yet these are the three things I want you to start doing .

Speaker 2 4:13

First one even Trump's confidence is conviction . If you want to appear more confident , you have to start getting convicted in your ideas , what you bring to the table , what you have to share , and you have to share it in a way where people are like , whoa , okay , I need to listen in here because this is important . Oh , okay , I need to listen in here because this is important , and it's a lot less about what you are saying and it's a lot more about how you are saying it . This is what I want you to practice , because when you are convicted and you show up in a way where you're not only using your inner conviction , so if you don't believe in your ideas , or if you are always checking with other people if this is okay or does this seem right , we need to cut that . And getting other people's opinions or feedback is fine . There's nothing wrong with that . But there's a big difference between getting

Practice 1: Develop Conviction

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feedback and then running it through your system and saying , okay , do I agree with this , is this truth , or do I feel like , hmm , nah , I don't think this is good information ? Are you asking for feedback and then immediately taking someone else's feedback as the right and totally dismissing your own idea . We need to work on your conviction in who you are , what you know , what you have to offer . So , again , I work with a lot of top leaders who are highly intelligent , absolutely fantastic at the work that they're doing , but they don't always see that , they don't always feel like that . There's a lot going on internally that we have to work on . But starting to get , even if internally you don't feel it yet , you can practice getting convicted in your ideas , really seeing your ideas as important , because if you don't see your ideas as important , nobody else is going to see your ideas as important or what you have to offer . And this is true in all different industries , whether you're a business owner , whether you are in senior management , whether you're in C-suite , whether you're in sales in real estate . Well , especially if you're in sales , you got to start . You have to be convicted in what you're offering . So I've been in sales for a long time and the reason I can sell to people that have only been talking to me for half an hour 45 minutes an hour is because I am convicted in what I am sharing and what I am offering .

Speaker 2 7:27

Now , being convicted isn't about feeling like you are faking it . We can't fake conviction . You can't be truly convicted in something that you don't believe in because it's going to come across to that person as I don't really know . We're not buying it . So it's not about faking it . It's about doing some work , some journaling . Why is my idea so fantastic ? What about me is actually pretty amazing . What about what I have to offer is freaking fantastic .

Speaker 2 8:13

And write out a list of a hundred things and read that consistently for at least two weeks and feel into it to really shift that belief . Because when you are sharing something , you have to be convicted in it . It can't be something like this where you're just kind of like . So I was thinking about maybe this idea you know it could kind of be good for you . No , you know it could kind of be good for you . No , what ? No one's going to believe that , no one's going to buy into your idea . So the first step is we got to be convicted . We have to be convicted in what we are sharing . So that's practicing your belief . If you don't have that belief , you do the list A hundred things , you start reading it , you start feeling into it daily . Look at yourself in a mirror , eye to eye , and read out that list out loud . I am freaking amazing because dot dot dot . This is a freaking amazing idea because dot dot dot and you are connecting into it . We are shifting the pathways around our belief .

Speaker 2 9:31

So next is we have to cut the filler words . So when you are sharing something and you are convicted if when you are sharing it , you are adding a lot of filler words , like this is an amazing idea . You know , because it's like this and also this is why it's great because you know that it's going to detract from the energy . From the energy , the more filler words , the less someone is leaning in and trusting and feeling confident in your idea . So one of the best things that you can do is record yourself speaking . Just record yourself . Don't try to not use the filler words , just speak normally .

Speaker 2 10:28

And use a transcription service where you can see the filler words . There are many , many different softwares that you can use . That AI will highlight all the filler words and it's really important that you go in and make sure that you can see what patterns that you have

Practice 2: Cut Out Filler Words

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. The first time I did this , I had a lot of patterns . I think one of the most common ones . I said it was like and I said okay , I got to cut this filler out , this is too much .

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So what you want to do is you want to first set the intention that and plug it in this is you speaking and commanding yourself . This is you speaking and commanding your reality . I am no longer saying like , I am no longer saying , I no longer say you know , and when you speak , when you start practicing and you catch yourself , right , it's just about taking notice . Oh , caught myself . Nope , I don't say that anymore Until you are practicing and you can see your transcription that it's less and less and less . You are training yourself . This is a process of training , so have patience and be consistent with it , because the more you can speak , when you are speaking and you are convicted in your idea , and conviction is energy . You cannot fake it . It has to be in your body . You have to be fully convicted mind , body , soul in what you are sharing and you do so without filler words . Wow , that alone is going to be huge . Most people are not operating like that . If you show up in a meeting and this is how you are coming across , people are going to lean in and listen .

Speaker 2 12:43

Third thing I want you to do is practice raising your voice and also speaking from right down here , belly speaking , not from up here . So we want to raise our voice . You ever notice when you're in a meeting or you're somewhere and someone is speaking , they have a loud voice . We automatically this is people have ideas about you . They make ideas about you instantly , like this when we hear someone with a loud voice speaking , we instantly think , oh , it's likely a confident person , that's a confident person . We think we want to make sure people are viewing you as confident . So raise your voice . It doesn't mean you have to start screaming . We don't want to start screaming , but we want to talk in a louder voice . So when I'm talking like this , if I'm in a room with a bunch of CEOs , I'm going to go in there with a louder voice because instantly I'm going to appear more confident than if I came in and I was sharing it like this and I was sharing it like this . So even

Practice 3: Command Your Voice

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if I'm sharing it like this and I'm not using my filler words , it doesn't come across the same and again , we want to make sure that you are coming across confident , whether you feel more confident or not , but let me tell you , if you do these , you are going to feel more confident in 30 days .

Speaker 2 14:46

Confidence a big part of confidence is understanding that . It's fluid and it's okay if one day you feel more confident than another day . The most important part is that you feel good about yourself , that your self-esteem is high and that you are convicted in whatever you are sharing . If you're selling something , you're convicted in what you're selling . If you have an idea you're bringing to the table , you are convicted in your idea . We sell all day long . We are selling our ideas all day long . Try this and come back to me in 30 days . Send me a message on Instagram , send me a DM and tell me what has happened . What deals have you sealed ? What opportunities have you gotten ? What deals have you sealed ?

Speaker 1 15:45

What opportunities have you gotten ? Leader , I appreciate you . Thank you for joining me and , as always , let's stay connected . Magnetic , big dreams Believe in it . Wisdom we seek in it Everything that you're looking for , brought to you by Lisa Jeffs the Magnetic .